2. You can't do anything - let me do it!
2. Take it, just calm down!
It is difficult for some parents to endure many hours of dull "well, please, well, come on." But, agreeing to give the baby what he asks, the parents, unwittingly, make it clear: whining and persuasion can achieve everything, and the mother's "no" should not be taken seriously.
3. I will see this again - you will get it from me!
As practice has shown, the matter is not beyond the threat sphere. Neither mom nor dad will execute the punishment, the child will only be afraid. This expression from the child will only cause resentment and confusion. Don't startle your baby. Children should know exactly what to expect in one situation or another. The sudden collapse of a parent doesn't do any good.
4. I said stop immediately!
Do not talk so harshly with the baby! It's your baby! If you break down, it's best to apologize. After all, the child is offended, feeling absolutely disenfranchised. And instead of "stopping" begins to protest - babies cry and are capricious, teenagers silently leave and withdraw into themselves. In general, no matter how you look at it, this phrase will not help to achieve what you want.
5. You must understand that ...
Many children have a defensive reaction to this phrase and its boring continuation. The kid does not understand moral teachings and, without listening to you, switches to something else. The worst teachings are perceived by the child when he is excited, upset or angry. Remember, he is also a person who has some kind of "problem", and at the moment he is concerned about it, and does not accept your even the most sensible and correct reasoning.
6. Boys (girls) do not behave like this!
Constantly repeating this, parents instill certain stereotypes in the child. And in adulthood, a boy who has already grown up will perceive his own emotionality as something unworthy, and a girl will experience complexes about a "non-female" profession or an insufficiently cleaned apartment.
7. Don't get upset about nonsense!
Maybe it's not for a toddler! Remember yourself as a child! Yes, the child may be upset that he was not given a typewriter or the house of cubes crumbled. After all, in his small world, it is the car and the house that are the most important! Showing disregard for the problems of the child, you risk losing his trust and in the future not to learn about other, not at all stupid problems of your baby.
8. Take care of my health!
Often some mothers say this to babies. But understand, sooner or later all this ceases to be taken seriously, as in the fairy tale about the shepherd and wolves. And the child may not pay attention to the really poor health of the mother out of habit. He will think that his mother is complaining if only he would stop making noise, jumping, playing, etc.
9. No, we will not buy this - there is no money (expensive)!
It is difficult to explain to the baby why you should not buy everything in a row. But it turns out that if mom or dad has money - you can buy everything in the store! That's how the kid understands this phrase. Isn't it better to say, mom and dad: "you already have such a toy", "a lot of chocolate is harmful". Yes, it's always hard to explain! But the child must understand why his parents do not buy it for him.
10. Everyone has kids like kids, and you...
... Lord's punishment, slacker, slut, etc. Do not "hang" such labels on children! This lowers self-esteem, and the child really begins to conform to them.